Why view a quarrel as destructive? A quarrel is just a passionate disagreement. I think it can potentially destroy the mutual acceptance between two or more parties but it may not necessarily be the case.
If possible, I’d rather pick more arguments with my parents, than remain unfamiliar with each other’s affairs. Of course, I hope the quality of the arguments can improve over time.
It is always maddening to argue with them. Why maddening? bcos we both feel that the opposite party is being rude. I feel that they are not respecting my right to make personal decisions.Instead of trying to understand my decision-making process, they either tell me not to do it or make hurtful statements which do no help to the decision I’ve made. They feel that I’m being rude because I often argue defensively and say nasty things in return.
I believe a healthy argument should not be like that. We can still be accepting of each other yet remaining in disagreement. but of course the disagreement has to be resolved eventually. And so it is a test of patience again.
This week felt like it has been crawling… towards a much anticipated weekend for me. The reason is obvious. Till then and beyond, my mind is sensing so much insecurities arising.
Our first thought of the day often rings in our head throughout the entire day. This morning I woke up at my psychological reminder for the truth for nus’ decision. disappointed? yes…. angry? not really… scared? very…
I’m scared not because I have no where to go… I know I have something else to work on but not knowing where… I’m being asked time and time again for my plans by EVERYONE everyday (my family, friends, colleagues, people I’m meeting for the first time and this is going to continue with people I’m going to meet soon until the day I know my next step) . Every time I’m being questioned, I trembled. I foresee every single thought, question, comment coming from them because my mind wants an answer from me too. who am I depending on for an answer? my mind again? my mind doesn’t even have a mind on its own… Frightening questions are the questions you’ve been asking yourself unendingly.
Then again, is the subject of our faith the target we turn to whenever we have questions unanswered? Is this the best solution to problems that always have roots in laziness and un-courageousness?